Decorating for the Multi-generational Home
Given the current housing market it’s not uncommon for as many as three and even four generations to live under one roof and that can put a lot of demands upon a home. Each home décor decisionfrom the shower chair to the toilet seat becomes more important when the item in question needs to serve small children, senior citizens, teens and everyone else.The bathroom is perhaps the most frequently used room in the house and it can be the most dangerous room since it combines water, and potentially slippery surfaces. A shower seat is a useful item for people of all ages – small children can sit on it while you shampoo their hair, women use it while shaving their legs and older family members can sit while bathing. Couple a shower bench with a handheld showerhead and you will find that most seniors are able to retain their privacy and independence far longer; that same handheld showerhead is great for watering plants, washing pets and shampooing hair.
Other bathroom aids include touchless faucets, soap and lotion dispensers and even touchless toilet seats. These make it easy to clean; the touchless element is great for those with mobility issues and it can potentially reduce the transfer of germs. Anti-skid bath mats and grab bars help to make a bathroom safer which is beneficial to family members of all ages.
In a multi-generational household you have lots of bedding including baby bedding; experts recommend three sets of bedding for each bed in the house with one set on the bed or crib, one set in the wash and one set at the ready. Under-bed storage containers are ideal for storing extra bedding when space is an issue.
Book Reviews – The Field – The Quest For the Secret Force in the Universe
I get all kinds of books to write about and it’s always hard to choose. For this issue I had decided to write about the book The Field: The Quest for the Secret Force of the Universe (HarperCollins). It is a book about the new view of energy and its relationship to healing and other matters. Then another book came along and I just had to write about it: When Life Changes Or You Wish It Would: How to Survive and Thrive in Uncertain Times (William Morrow). Its title is pretty descriptive of its contents. The idea came to me to write about what these two books, on very different subjects, had in common to teach us. Doing so has proven worthwhile, giving me a new perspective on an old theme.
The Field, by Lynne McTaggart, is about what this investigative journalist found about what is ready to become a revolution in science. It pertains to the theory of the “Zero Point Field.” You’ve probably heard that the size of the space between electrons is a lot, lot, lot bigger than the size of the electrons themselves. The same goes for the planets in our solar system. Ever wonder why all that wasted space? Well, the Zero Point Field theory is about how that space between is where the energy is! In the space in-between is where the unitive field, uniting all creation, has its life. It’s where “nothing” is, that the important stuff is happening! As scientists begin to learn how to tap into this energy, things are going to be different. The limitless energy of empty space will someday allow us to power aircraft by something like a radio beam, if you recognize that image from one of Edgar Cayce’s stories. It has tremendous implications for healing, especially what we call spiritual healing, or mental healing at a distance.
Let’s look at the second book, When Life Changes, by Carol Adrienne, a guidebook to dealing with change. Among her other credits, the author co-wrote with James Redfield the workbook to accompany The Celestine Prophecy. She’s writing this book because we find change difficult. Often it happens to us and we have to adapt. Sometimes we wish to initiate it but find it difficult. That seems to be one of the paradoxes about life: life is change, we are alive, but we can’t deal with change! So she writes this book explaining how to deal with it. I’m alive, so I’ve been through a lot of changes, both voluntary and involuntary, and I can recognize in her book many good ideas, suggestions, and, above all, an approach to change. She’s a teacher of intuition, and she teaches intuitive methods to help us get into harmony with the natural flow of change. In the pause – let’s call it a pause and not a block – between the status quo and what’s coming ahead, there’s a creative turmoil inside. Not a deep, black hole of anxiety and dread, she’d say, but rich, creamy, creative turmoil, like what happens when the caterpillar in its cocoon has totally dissolved into liquid, but it’s not yet a butterfly. Ever been in that muddle? Her book is how to make a wonderful elixir for change from that stuff.
The first book is about how the world isn’t really made of things. It’s energy. And energy isn’t really a thing. It exists more in the space between what we think of as things. In its existence in the space in-between, energy is really an event, an event of relationships.
Now why do people find change difficult if change is the stuff of life? I think it is because we think of ourselves as “entities,” in other words, things! But we are not really things, for the cells in our bodies are constantly being replaced. We are events in process. We are stories! Now what makes a story? A story is not about the conditions of things, but about the changing conditions of things, or about the changing relationship between people and circumstances.
It’s not what exists that makes a story, it’s what’s happen- Iing to what exists, which allows meaning to unfold. Change is difficult for us because we identify with the conditions of our lives, not our relationship to those conditions. According to The Field, there’s not much energy in conditions as such. The energy lies in what’s between conditions. Learning to deal with change gracefully, therefore, is learning to be comfortable with that space between the “you” whom you knew and loved at one point in time and the “you” whom you’ll come to know and love later, which is essentially one of the exercises that When Life Changes teaches. To be able to know that the time has come to make change, or, to know how to embrace change when it happens, requires the spiritual leap – to use some old metaphors – from being a bump on a log to being the wave in the water. You probably recognize these images and will make connections with familiar metaphysical teachings about personal transformation. If so, then you’ll have an intuition about how to gracefully inhabit the space in-between and become your unfolding story.
Movie Reviews – As Good As Dead
Movie Reviews this week looks at the dark drama As Good As Dead. This is a very surreal movie starring Cary Elwes (Liar Liar) and the much loved Andie Macdowell (Four Weddings and a Funeral) as Ethan Belfrage and Helen Kalahan respectively, it also stars the stalwart Brian Cox (X-Men 2) as Reverend Kalahan.
We join the movie as Reverend Kalahan preaches to his congregation, at first glance it seems just like a normal church service, with the preacher speaking to his congregation about becoming shepherds, but as the camera pans across the audience and the surroundings in the church, you notice Swastikas, and Nazi symbols, not to mention some of the congregation could easily be taken for Neo-Nazis. As Kalahan continues to preach, it pans to his wife, who is looking on admirably, as Kalahan speaks; a member of the congregation gets up, as if the words of Kalahan had triggered something in him, we find out later that he went off and killed several immigrants in a bus, in an unprovoked rampage before shooting himself.
We move forward several years, to Ethan who is entertaining his lovely daughter Sarah played by the adorable Emma Kantor; before being whisked away by her mother Kate, played by Nicole Ansari-Cox. Ethan is facing some problems with his landlord who is trying to evict him, so he can build a new lucrative residential property, but Ethan is determined not to move, and he is prepared for any tactic his landlord will try. Soon after the initial confrontation with his landlord he is paid a visit by two men, he assumes they are with his landlord and doesn’t open the door, they come back later and trap Ethan in his flat. They proceed to torture him, while asking him to confess, he desperately tells them he doesn’t know what they are talking about, all the while he assumes that his landlord had sent them to force him to relinquish his flat, but it turns out Kalahan, the preacher at the beginning had been killed, soon after the unprovoked rampage by a member of his flock, and these two men; one Jake played by Matt Dallas (The Indian) and the other Aaron (played brilliantly even down to the Southern accent) by Frank Whaley (Swimming with Sharks); are out for revenge, ordered so by Helen, who joins all of them later on.
Ethan is adamant he doesn’t know what they are talking about and despite their torture he doesn’t deviate from his story, the audience will no doubt feel this is a case of mistaken identity that is about to go horribly wrong, especially when Ethan’s lovely next door neighbour Amy played by Jess Weixler is equally bundled in to the shenanigans, and is used as a guinea pig to get Ethan to confess to all that his torturers would like him to confess to, while frighteningly for Ethan his wife and daughter are wondering why he hasn’t showed up and may just come to his flat to investigate.
As Good As Dead is a very dark movie, and many will be impressed by the acting abilities of all involved.
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